Cut off contact with him, go see your mom but just ignore him while in his presence. Don't bring your brother into but talk to your mom about it. Parents change their attitude when you give them time and distance away from you. I didn't get along with my old man from the ages 14-20, then I moved 2000 miles away and didn't come home for 3 years and barely spoke, his attitude changed pretty quickly when he realized that I had the choice/control of being part of his life and letting him be part of mine. Unfortunately you don't get to choose relatives but you can choose how you want them to be part of you and your life, don't let the idea of blood/genetics put you into situations where you are going to be unhappy.
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"They show us what's missing in our lives, and how to love ourselves more completely and unconditionally. They connect us back to who we are, and to the purpose of why we are here."-Trisha McCagh when speaking about animals.
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